till I think that to be a good girl, good and bad bad? You are deeply mistaken: bad girls have character traits that are worth taking. Especially if you’re a good girl.
Reasonable selfishness of course. The main problem of a good girl is the desire to be good for everyone. Otherwise, why would they love her? Therefore, a good girl always thinks of others she does not think of herself at all. She has no time and she does not have the strength. All the forces it spends on something to guess the desire to close and settle them as quickly as possible. A bad girl thinks first of herself about herself and this is not bad at all. Selfishness it’s completely natural natural mechanism which will work for the good if not try to break it and get to spin in the opposite direction. Do you remember the airplane rule? First, put the oxygen mask on yourself then on the baby or on the neighbor, if the neighbor himself is not able to do it. If you think first of all about yourself you will have enough resources on others. On the contrary, it does not work: if you think only of others you will not have anything left for yourself.
A bad girl can very clearly distinguish important things from necessary ones. And remain indifferent to these most important things if they prevent her from doing the necessary. Bad girl does not get out of the bag last thousand rubles to buy a packet of food in the cat shelter. Bad girl does not waste emotional resources that to convince completely innocent people in that they are deeply wrong doing so-and-so. A good girl really wants to be good so she does it all. The question is how is it bad? The fact that a good girl is exhausted emotionally acutely reacting to every case of injustice in this vast world. Bad girl most likely someone also helps but the realizes that her modest strength is not enough for you to save all humankind ( and animal and vegetable worlds at the same time). Well, because that’s reality. No need to get involved in it that you can not afford because you will experience and it is entirely your drain.
Ability to say no
A bad girl can easily live because she knows how to do one very important thing: telling people no. A good girl does not work. She could and would but tried a couple of times and decided that it is not worth it. Because a good girl first denies someone and then begins to worry: but did she offend a good man in vain? Or maybe it was necessary to accept? And what about her now think? This endless inner monologue is fertile soil for a sense of guilt. At a good girl it grows to such sizes so presses that under him it is literally impossible to breathe. Therefore, the next time a good girl agrees with anyone on any issue just to avoid these nightmarish experiences. The problem is she will still have to worry about but for another reason: it is obvious that the man unable to refuse anyone sooner or later run into trouble.
A bad girl knows how to open her mouth and say straight: go-ka you wood dear fellow citizens. A good girl in a conflict situation is lost and does not find the right words. So she silently swallows the insult and then comes home and starts endlessly scrolling the situation. However, post hoc analysis of the conflict, the girl does not help because after a session of self-flagellation begins for him: only know how after a fight with fists waving well, you and rag That’s what a good girl says to herself and as a result, a trifling domestic conflict swells to the extent of a local catastrophe. That of course does not add peace of mind.
On the part of a good girl looks much more independent than bad. It certainly is great at school ( and my mother did not have to stand over it all night to get to do homework), she enrolled in college and graduated with honors him. And she certainly has a job and good. The problem is that’s a good girl all this achieved not because I wanted to and therefore it should be. Must. This very sense of duty sometimes raises good girls to some unattainable peaks. From which they then fall breaking his spine. Because we are so constituted that we can something long and fruitfully engaged in only if we enjoy it. If not we’re going for a while at the exhaust, Behold what I have done am doing I must vykraivaya crumbs of pleasure there and then everything. The motor stalls. Hello Depression The bad girl at some point decides for herself what she would like. She will not listen to her mother husband or girlfriend. She will choose her own path and will be happy. And if not at least will not regret that have not tried that which I wanted. And the absence of regrets is also happiness. Which in fact, we are all trying to achieve. So it goes.