5 traits that you need to learn from the bad girls
Still think that to be a good girl, good and bad bad? You are deeply mistaken the bad girls have traits of character which is to take over. Especially if you a good girl.
Rational egoism of course. The main problem is a good girl the desire to be good for all. Otherwise, for what it will be like? Therefore, a good girl always thinks of others she did not think of himself. She had once and she had no strength to it. All the forces it spends on it to guess the desires and fulfill their loved ones as soon as possible. Bad girl thinks primarily about himself and it was not bad. Selfishness this is perfectly natural natural mechanism which will work for the good if not try to break it and get to spin in the opposite direction. Fixed-wing Remember the rule? Please put on your oxygen mask on yourself then on a child or a neighbor if the neighbor is not itself in a position to do so. If you think first of all about yourself you have enough resources, and others. And it does not work the other way around if one thinks only of others there is nothing left for yourself.
The poor girl is very well able to distinguish important things from the necessary. And remain indifferent to these most important things if they interfere with her to do the necessary. The poor girl does not get out of the bag last thousand rubles to buy a packet of food in the cat shelter. The poor girl does not waste emotional resources that to convince completely innocent people in that they are deeply wrong doing so-and-so. Good girl really wants to be good why does it all. The question is what is bad? However that’s a good girl exhausted emotionally sharply reacting to every case of injustice in this vast world. Bad girl most likely someone also helps but understands that its modest forces are not enough for you to save all humankind and animal and vegetable worlds at the same time. Well, because this is the reality. You do not need to get involved in it that you can not afford because you will experience and it will drain you completely.
The ability to say no
Bad girl easy to live with because she knows how to do one very important thing to tell people no. A good girl is not obtained. She could and would but tried a couple of times and decided that it is not worth it. Because the first good girl to someone fails and then begin to worry as if she was a good man hurt in vain? Or maybe it was necessary to accept? And what about her now think? This endless internal monologue fertile ground for guilt. A good girl, it grows to such an extent so pressing that it is literally impossible to breathe it. So the next time a good girl agrees with anyone on any subject whatever just to avoid these nightmarish experiences. The problem is she will still have to worry about but for another reason it is obvious that a person not able to refuse anyone sooner or later run into trouble.
The poor girl is able to open his mouth and speak directly, Go-ka you woods dear comrades citizens. Good girl in a conflict situation is lost and can not find the right words. And because it silently swallows the insult and then comes home and starts to scroll endlessly situation. But analysis of the conflict after the fact does not help the girl because after a session of self-flagellation begins for him only know how after a fight with his fists waving well, you and rag That is something says to himself, a good girl and ultimately trivial domestic conflict swells to the size of a local disaster. That clearly peace of mind does not add.
From the good girl looks much more independent than bad. It is certainly great at school and my mother did not have to stand over there all night to get to do homework, she enrolled in college and graduated with honors him. And the work she has exactly and good. The problem is that’s a good girl all this achieved not because I wanted to and therefore it should be. Must. This is the call of duty at times elevates good girls to some inaccessible peaks. With which they then fell breaking his spine. Because we are so constituted that we can something long and fruitfully engaged in only if we get pleasure from it. If not we will go for a while in the exhaust, Behold what I have done am doing something I must Vykraivaya crumbs of pleasure there and then everything. Motor stalls. Hey depressed Bad girl at some point decides to herself what she would like. She will not listen to my mother husband or friend. It chooses its own path and be happy. And if not at least not regret that have not tried it what he wanted. And the lack of remorse is also happiness. Which in fact we all seek. So it goes.